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Explains self-harm, including possible causes and how you can access treatment and support. Includes tips for helping yourself, and guidance for friends and family.
Sometimes outside support is needed to help you make positive changes. You may need to try a few different things to find what works for you, and combine self-help techniques with professional support:
If you receive NHS treatment, it should be in line with National Institute for Health and Care Excellence (NICE) guidelines.
These say that:
Seeing your GP is often the first step to asking for help and discussing your self-harm confidentially.
Your GP may:
If they are concerned that your self-harm is a threat to your life, or if you need medical treatment for your injuries, they may suggest you spend time in hospital.
Talking treatments involve talking with a professional therapist trained to listen with empathy and acceptance.
See our pages on Talking treatments for more information.
Support groups are regular meetings with others who have similar experiences to you.
Online support is an option if you don't feel ready to see someone face to face.
Some people feel that scars from self-harm are an important part of their journey, while others would prefer not to have them. Treatments are available for covering and reducing scarring. For more information see the Lifesigns pages on scar reduction and skin camouflage.
"Visiting the GP was the best thing I have ever done. It didn’t immediately get better, but that’s where my recovery began."
Remember that whoever is supporting you is there to help you and listen to you. Sometimes a therapist or practitioner may ask you to commit to not self-harm during a course of treatment. It is important that you don't feel pressured into making decisions about this, and that anything you decide is realistic for you at the time.
It can be tempting to try to cover up the extent of your self-harm, or to lie about it altogether. While this is understandable, if you are able to share your experience it can make a big difference to how you feel. It can help to reduce feelings of shame and isolation, and will increase the chance of you receiving the support you need. It does take a lot of courage to reach out, and it might take more than one conversation to say everything that you'd like to say.
"Even when I've had to go to A&E, I have lied and pretended my injuries were accidents – which in hindsight is silly as I could have received some emotional support, but I hold such deep shame."
If the person supporting you is not trained or experienced in self-harm, it might be useful to ask them to find out more – by reading these pages, for example, or by contacting an organisation for people who self-harm (Self-injury Support, Lifesigns and Harmless have helpful information resources).
It can also help if you write down all the things that you'd like to say to the person in advance. This will help you if you feel anxious about expressing your feelings or worried that you might be judged.
"I have noticed in recent years that nurses and doctors in A&E are more understanding of self-harm, which is great."
If you are concerned about your treatment or care, or find it hard to access the support you need, it may be helpful to get an advocate to support you. This could be a friend, family member or professional. You can also contact PALS for information on making a complaint about NHS services if you need to.
This information was published in October 2016. We will revise it in 2019.
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