Managing your feelings about changes to lockdown – for young people

• You might be feeling sad about how things are right now. For example, if you’re missing out on everyday social things, like school, parties and sport. Or exciting plans, like travelling or work experience.
• You might be feeling isolated or low because you’re not able to see family and friends. 
• You may also feel low or lacking in purpose because you've been furloughed or have lost your job because of the virus.

• You may be feeling worn down after months of living through the pandemic. Especially if you’re not getting on with your family or the people you live with.
• Or you may have been hiding parts of your identity from the people you live with, like your sexuality or faith, and want to be yourself again.
• You may also be feeling fed up because of changes to the rules and the compromises you’re having to make.
• Or you may feel frustrated if you think that the government are handling things the wrong way.

• You may feel angry that other people aren’t following social distancing rules.
• Perhaps you’re feeling pressure from friends to meet up and feel confused about what’s allowed.
• Maybe you don’t feel like you're getting enough support with school or college work. Or you may be angry that your exams have been cancelled already. 

• You may be scared or upset because someone you care about has to go to work where they feel unsafe. 
• You may have existing difficulties around coping with germs or hygiene, which coronavirus and social distancing is making worse.
• You may feel worried about how coronavirus will affect your education, career or other parts of your future. For example, you might be feeling sad that you're not in school. Or you might feel that college or university isn't what you hoped for, or that you’re missing out on things.
• You might also feel anxious that your relationships are changing during lockdown, like with your friends, girlfriend or boyfriend.
  

"I’m worried that my anxiety and worries about germs will get worse once I go to college."

• You may be feeling annoyed because the government guidance for young people isn’t clear. Or feeling powerless, like you don’t have a say in what’s going on.
• Or you might feel annoyed that young people and students are being blamed unfairly for rises in coronavirus cases. 
• You may be feeling cheated because you aren’t able to sit exams like normal, or feel like you’re missing out on important time with teachers.
• Or you may feel hard done-by that you don’t have equipment like a laptop available when your classmates do.  
• Maybe your mental health support has had to change during lockdown. Or you’re frustrated because lockdown has caused you to take steps back in your recovery.
• Or your family might be going through difficult money issues, and you may feel pressure to provide support, or fear that you’ll lose your independence.

• You may have gone through something very stressful, frightening or upsetting this past year. For example, if you’ve had to stay somewhere that wasn’t a safe place for you.
• Or you may be recovering from coronavirus or helping a family member to get better.
• Someone you love may have died this year, and you might be grieving and also feeling afraid to lose anyone else.

There are things you can do to help you understand and accept how you’re feeling, like:

• Use an emotions wheel to help name feelings that are hard to pinpoint.
• Talk to someone you trust about what ‘normal’ looks like for you right now, to help you accept what is happening. This could be a parent or carer, a friend, or a helpline such as Childline.
• Write, draw, run, or do something else that will give you space to feel everything you’re currently feeling. Even the really unhappy, angry stuff.
• Recognise and challenge unkind or unhelpful thoughts. Try to do this by talking to yourself as you would to a good friend. You could ask yourself: ‘How might someone else see this?’, ‘Is there anything that suggests this might not happen?’, or ‘What would I say to a friend who was thinking this?’ Answering these questions may help you to think more rationally and calmly.
• Visit our page on understanding my feelings if you’re still struggling to understand how you’re feeling.

"Take time to reflect... be honest with how you think you’re managing lockdown, what strategies have worked for you in the past and how could you adapt them."

Spending time with friends and family, whether in person or not, can help us feel better and boost our wellbeing. You could:

• Invest time in the relationships you want to grow and build – those which you rely on for support as well as fun.
• Keep in touch with friends, family, boyfriends and girlfriends by sending them a card, a letter or a small gift.
• Share how you feel with someone you trust – this can help strengthen your friendship as well as giving you both a chance to support each other.
• Wear a mask in a design that you like, or design your own, to help you feel more comfortable when you meet your friends.
• Choose an activity that you can play outside whilst distancing, like football, catch, or cycling. This could help you feel connected while been physically spaced out, so that social distancing doesn’t feel as weird.
• Connect with others who understand – for example, you could try The Mix's community message boards.

"Find other people your age you can talk to. It really helps because we’re going through the same thing."

When things get tough, there are quick things you can try to reduce worry and panic, like:

• A ‘grounding’ activity to stop your thoughts spinning out of control. Sit back and focus on what’s going on around you. Try and name five things you can see, four things you can feel, three things you can hear, two things you can smell, and one thing you can taste.
• Find a distraction that takes your mind off things, like going for a walk, listening to happy music or talking to someone. These can help you when you notice you’re worrying about the past or future.
• Find a mindfulness activity to help you stay in the moment. You could try this breathing exercise – breathe in through your nose for four counts, hold it for two counts, and breathe out through your mouth for seven counts. If you repeat this, it can slow your breath and help keep you calm.
• Ask for support from someone you trust, whether it’s a friend, family member, or helpline like Childline or The Mix.
• Find more information on anxiety and tips on how to cope on YoungMinds website.

"Keep yourself busy, doing things you love and things that makes you proud of yourself for finishing."

Taking small steps to recognise what’s in your control right now, and what you can do to plan ahead, can help you feel more settled:

• Make a timetable of your day or week, making sure you include fun or relaxing activities. This can help you plan ahead, and feel in more control of your near future.
• Write down your worries before bed and go over them in the morning. This can help you work out what no longer needs your attention, what things you can do to make yourself feel better, and what is out of your control.
• Be involved in making decisions about how you’re keeping safe, like asking to choose the hand soap or shower gel you use, or picking your own face mask.

"I’ve realised I’m more capable of making my own decisions without pressure from my school."

Looking after your physical wellbeing can have a big impact on your mental health, too.

There are simple things you can try to look after your physical health, like:

• Have a good bedtime and sleep routine. For example, have time away from a screen before you go to bed and limit the amount of caffeine you drink.
• Eat healthily and stay active – this will look after both your body and mind and help your thoughts to become clearer.
• Make sure you still follow guidance from the government and NHS on washing your hands, wearing a mask and social distancing.
• Be kind to yourself if you forget to do something, or you make a mistake. This is new for everyone and all we can do is try our best.

"Take care of your basic needs - try to eat and drink regularly, brush teeth, have a shower."