Parenting with a mental health problem

Explains difficulties you may face as a parent with a mental health problem, support available and suggestions on how to help yourself and your children.

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What support is there?

If you are parenting with a mental health problem, there may be times when you need additional support to help you cope. Different types of services are available for you and your family:

Advocacy

If you are finding it hard to get the help you need, an advocate might be able to support you. An advocate is an independent person whose role is to listen to your needs and support your choices.

The Mind Infoline can help you find out whether there's an advocacy service in your area. See our guide to advocacy for more details.

How this can help

listening to your views and concerns
helping you to find out information
exploring different options for support
helping you contact relevant people
attending meetings and appointments with you
supporting you to express your views and wishes
helping make sure your voice is heard.

Mental health services

If you would like to access a mental health service, talk to your GP or a mental health worker.

They can tell you what support is available and refer you to a local service.

How this can help

health visitor – these can offer support, advice and information on parenting young children while managing your mental health
community mental health team (CMHT) – these offer intensive support to help you manage your mental health problem more effectively and cope better as a parent
parent and baby unit – this is a place where you can look after your baby, under the care of a specialist mental health team, while being treated for a mental health problem.

See our page on the Care Programme Approach for more information.

Social care

Adult services

If you need extra support your local authority may be able to advise you and provide some help through social care. To access this, you need to ask for social care needs assessment.

The assessment should be carried out in such a way that ensures your involvement and that takes enough time to capture all of your needs.

For more information on assessments see our guide to health and social care rights.

Examples of the types of support that adult social care might be able to help you with are listed below.

Children's services

In addition to support from adult social care services, you and your child may also be entitled to support from children's social care services.

In England, local authorities have a duty to safeguard and promote the welfare of any children 'in need' and their families under section 17 of the Children Act 1989. This automatically includes disabled children and any child whose health or development is likely to be negatively affected if the local authority doesn't provide support.

The fact that you have a mental health problem won't automatically mean that your child is in need. The local authority has to carry out an assessment of your child's needs to decide this.

In Wales, local authorities have a duty to assess children who may need care and support under section 21 of the Social Services and Wellbeing (Wales) Act 2014. They must meet the needs of children and adults who meet the statutory eligibility criteria.

Children who perform caring roles are likely to meet the criteria for being a child in need, in recognition that the role can often impact on their health and development.

Adult and children's services should work together in assessing your family's needs.

How this can help

managing money, such as budgeting or paying the bills
housework tasks of cleaning, cooking and shopping
accessing local services such as peer support groups, employment services, or day centres
organising transport or applying for travel passes to attend appointments or services
training in parenting skills
managing relationships with friends, family or neighbours
aids and adaptations to your home or help with mobility issues
personal care, such as washing or dressing
benefits and housing, such as help with applications, attending appointments or getting advice or information
accessing or staying in training, education or employment
support from a specialist social worker or support worker
support for your child, such as supervised youth clubs or day trips, and respite
direct payments so that you can arrange the additional support you need.

See our pages on care and support planning and direct payments for more information.

Charities and voluntary organisations

Support for adults

In certain areas voluntary mental health organisations and family charities may offer services that might be able to help you - these might be face to face, via email, text or via a helpline or online forum.

You can usually refer yourself by telephoning, emailing to make an appointment or attending a drop-in session.

Find out what support is available in Useful contacts, by getting in touch with the Mind Infoline or by contacting your local Mind.

Support for children

Children with parents who experience mental health problems can also benefit from extra support sometimes. There are a wide range of services that offer different kinds of services for varying ages.

To find out what support is available in your area, search online or talk to a relevant professional, such as a GP.

How this can help

parenting courses – see Family Lives
online forums and discussions
online counselling
drop in services for information and advice – see Citizens Advice
wide range of support for parents – see Family Action or Family Rights Group
specialist support for single parents – see Gingerbread
outreach services where workers can visit you in your home – see Home-Start
drop in groups
peer mentoring and support groups
time out for carers – see Barnardo's.

Care Programme Approach:

If you are being treated through the Care Programme Approach (CPA) your role as a parent and the needs of your children should be taken into account when considering your health and social care needs.

"It's the hardest thing to do but admitting you're struggling and asking for help and support is very important."