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Information for young people for when you’re struggling with how you’re feeling and want to understand why.
Sometimes our feelings can be really upsetting or scary, especially if you're not sure why you feel the way you do. Are you feeling upset, scared or worried? Are you not sure why? We’re here to help you understand.
This page has information on the following:
Thoughts and feelings can be hard to make sense of. You might be having new feelings you don’t understand, like:
If you’re worried about anything you're experiencing then opening up to someone can help. You may just need to talk it through – or you may find there is information and support out there that can help.
"I was just crying all the time but I didn't know why. Everything was just getting too much."
There are lots of things that can affect the way you feel, like:
Whatever the reason, you're not alone and there is support available.
"I was 15 when I started to experience problems with anxiety and depression which became so bad that I was unable to take my GCSEs."
A mental health problem is when the way you’re thinking, feeling or reacting becomes difficult for you to cope with.
We can all feel worried, down, upset or angry at times and this can be normal. But if these feelings last a long time, it might be a sign that you need more help. For example, if the way you feel:
Mental health problems are really common. They are not a sign of weakness and can happen to anyone. You can visit our page on finding support for information on what help is available.
It is always okay for you to ask for help.
It’s common to wonder if you can handle things on your own, or even just feel like you don’t know where to start. Whatever the issue may be, big or small, you don’t ever need to cope on your own. You can talk to someone as soon as something is worrying you and you feel ready to talk.
"Telling my parents how I was feeling was the hardest thing I've ever done but my mum was so kind and now I know I'm not in this alone."
Asking for help can feel like a really hard step but reaching out for support can help you to:
"I find it helps to spend time with friends when I feel really stressed if it's exam time or I'm finding things difficult."
This information was published in June 2019. We will revise it in 2021.
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