Understanding my feelings - for young people

Information for young people for when you’re struggling with how you’re feeling and want to understand why.

Understanding my feelings

Sometimes our feelings can be really upsetting or scary, especially if you're not sure why you feel the way you do. Are you feeling upset, scared or worried? Are you not sure why? We’re here to help you understand.

This page has information on the following:

What’s happening to me?

Thoughts and feelings can be hard to make sense of. You might be having new feelings you don’t understand, like:

just not feeling yourself
feeling something isn’t right
finding it hard to enjoy things you normally would, such as spending time with friends or doing your favourite hobby
feeling angry or sad
wanting to be alone
having strange thoughts that you don’t understand.

If you’re worried about anything you're experiencing then opening up to someone can help. You may just need to talk it through – or you may find there is information and support out there that can help.

"I was just crying all the time but I didn't know why. Everything was just getting too much."

Why am I feeling this way?

There are lots of things that can affect the way you feel, like:

problems at home, school or in relationships
big changes in your life
confusion about who you are, your sexuality or beliefs
pressure from yourself or others
feeling lonely or like nobody understands
being bullied or abused
worrying about what’s happening in the world, like things you hear about in the news.

Whatever the reason, you're not alone and there is support available.

"I was 15 when I started to experience problems with anxiety and depression which became so bad that I was unable to take my GCSEs."

When does something become a mental health problem?

A mental health problem is when the way you’re thinking, feeling or reacting becomes difficult for you to cope with.

We can all feel worried, down, upset or angry at times and this can be normal. But if these feelings last a long time, it might be a sign that you need more help. For example, if the way you feel:

affects you most days
stops you from doing the things you enjoy
makes you feel like you can’t cope anymore

Mental health problems are really common. They are not a sign of weakness and can happen to anyone. You can visit our page on finding support for information on what help is available.

When should I ask for help?

It is always okay for you to ask for help.

It’s common to wonder if you can handle things on your own, or even just feel like you don’t know where to start. Whatever the issue may be, big or small, you don’t ever need to cope on your own. You can talk to someone as soon as something is worrying you and you feel ready to talk.

"Telling my parents how I was feeling was the hardest thing I've ever done but my mum was so kind and now I know I'm not in this alone."

Why should I ask for help?

Asking for help can feel like a really hard step but reaching out for support can help you to:

find support to help with how you're feeling
feel like you're not alone
share how you feel with someone you trust
understand your feelings better
speak to a professional, like a doctor, counsellor or mental health expert
stop things from getting worse

What can I do right now?

Talk to someone you trust, like a friend or trusted adult, such as your teacher. See our page on opening up for ideas on how to start the conversation.
Visit your doctor
Explore options for support - See our page on finding support for more information
Take some time to do something you enjoy or find relaxing. For tips on things you could try to look after yourself, visit the Childline website.