Information for parents and carers of young people aged 11-18 who are worried about their child's wellbeing, and want to know how to support them.
You might be feeling worried about your child’s wellbeing or mental health during the coronavirus pandemic, and want to know how to help.
This page has tips on how to support your teen's wellbeing, including advice on ways to get help. For information on how to look after your own wellbeing, visit our coronavirus information hub.
We're here to support you and your family through this time.
This page has information on the following:
Over the past year, lots of parents and carers have been juggling work and family life with little or no support.
As a result, you might be feeling low, worried, pessimistic, angry, or even apathetic about the pandemic. Our page on difficult feelings about the coronavirus pandemic has more on what you may be feeling.
Caring for others might also mean you don’t feel like you have much time to look after your own wellbeing. But it’s even more important to take care of yourself when you’re supporting others.
For information on how to look after your own wellbeing, visit our coronavirus information hub.
Your teen may have heard different things about lockdown, or tier restrictions, from various places. And they might feel worried or confused about what’s happening.
It’s important to recognise how they're feeling, provide reassurance, and separate fact from fiction.
Here are some tips for talking to them about lockdown:
When you talk, try to:
Ask them what they've heard about lockdown, and help them to understand if what they’ve heard is true or not.
Use facts from trustworthy sources, like the NHS or the government. You can visit these pages for the latest government guidance:
Or you could offer to watch an unbiased news source together, such as BBC News. This will help to challenge any incorrect information they may have heard.
If you're worried about how much news they are seeing or where they are getting information from, encourage them to limit their intake by only checking at a certain time of the day or consider avoiding certain sites that aren’t helpful.
Reminding them of your love and support will help them feel safe, and know they have someone to come back to if they want to talk more.
Encouraging your teen to balance the amount of time they spend on their phone with other activities can be challenging, especially when they are spending a lot of time at home.
Setting rules around your own screen time, such as thinking about how often you check the news or social media, could help you to promote healthy boundaries.
Try to involve your teen in discussions around screen time. For example, you could ask them how they feel increased screen time may affect their wellbeing.
Social media can help your teen to stay in touch with friends or partners, but it might also make them feel anxious, worried or upset.
If social media is making them feel like this, you could suggest that they take a break or limit their social media use.
You could also suggest they change what they look at. For example, they might decide to view particular groups or pages but not scroll through timelines or newsfeeds.
“It makes me feel relieved to see that other people are going through the same thing.”
Your teen might be feeling a mixture of emotions about coronavirus and the current situation, and this can be really worrying and stressful for both of you.
We're living through a period of change and uncertainty, so it's natural to feel upset or unsure about what you should do.
You're not alone and there are lots of things you can try to support your teen:
Your teen might be feeling a mixture of emotions right now. Our page on managing feelings about changes to lockdown has more on what they may be feeling.
However they're feeling, it's important to acknowledge their thoughts and emotions.
You could try to:
They are probably missing seeing friends, partners and family members they haven’t seen in a while.
Encourage your teen to virtually connect with their friends, partners and family. You could also try to be more lenient with their mobile phone and social media use if it's helping them feel connected.
“The lockdown is the biggest problem because I rely on being able to see the people I love as a coping mechanism for my anxiety and depression.”
Their lives have changed a lot over the past year – exams have been cancelled, they've been apart from their friends and family, and they may feel unsafe at the prospect of catching the coronavirus.
It may help to:
During this time, you could encourage your teen to think about how they want to contribute to home life or wider society.
There are also lots of volunteering opportunities that your teen could take part in, such as virtual befriending or volunteering at a food bank. You can find your nearest food bank on the Trussell Trust's website.
Spending more time at home might make your teen feel like they've lost their independence, and this will be difficult for them.
Try to find ways to spend time together without always being on top of each other. For example, you could sit together while you're both doing different activities.
You should respect their need to spend time on their own, too.
We don't know how long the coronavirus pandemic will impact our day-to-day lives, but we do know that this won't last forever.
Help your teen to focus on what they can control. For example, you could encourage them to make plans for the weekends and life after lockdown. Knowing what to expect may help them to worry less.
Planning some fun activities together will also help them have something to look forward to.
Sadly, during this time your teen could experience the death of someone they know. This may be because of coronavirus or it may be unrelated.
The outbreak of coronavirus also means that there are some restrictions around the usual ways we grieve. For example, it may not be possible for them to attend the funeral in person.
Some young people may have caring responsibilities for adults, brothers or sisters, or other family members. They may feel anxious about what will happen if the person they care for becomes unwell, or if they become unwell and need to self-isolate.
To help manage their anxiety, it's a good idea to help them make a plan for what will happen if the person they care for becomes unwell, or if you become unwell. The plan could include the contact details of individuals and organisations that can offer support to your teen, such as Carers UK and YACbook.
You could also let your teen know about our coronavirus content hub for young people. This includes information on coronavirus and wellbeing, managing feelings about changes to lockdown, plus lots of tips from other young people.
If you're a key worker and your teen is going into school, this could be a hard time for them. They may be separated from their friends, follow modified timetables, and probably feel like it's very unfair.
In this situation you could:
“I’m worried about going back to school. I don’t want to go back. I’m having panic attacks.”
This could be a difficult time for your teen. They may be feeling isolated from their friends, and could be struggling to keep up with work or to feel motivated at home.
You could help to support them by:
As most exams have been cancelled for this year, your teen may be feeling upset or frustrated – especially if they were also affected by exam cancellations last year.
Your teen may feel like their revision and studying has been for nothing, or be uninterested in studying at home.
You can help them by giving them space to voice their feelings. You could also remind them that this is still only temporary – their education or career will continue after lockdown ends.
This is a time of greater uncertainty for your teen – their school or college may be closed, they may be attending a different school, their care may have been paused, there may be more or fewer people at home, and they will have new daily routines.
You can find further advice and support from the following:
Your teen may need to study from home for a period of time. For example, if there's a national lockdown, or if a classmate has a suspected or confirmed case of coronavirus.
This can be difficult for them, especially if they’re away from their friends again, or struggle to concentrate or feel motivated at home.
If your teen starts showing behaviours that are worrying for you, it’s important to seek help.
You may be unsure about what types of treatment and support are available at the moment, and how they may have changed
It's important to know that help is still out there.
If your teen starts showing behaviours that are worrying for you, they may need support that they didn't before.
You can discuss this with your teen, and you can ask their current mental health team or their GP if they can access counselling or other support.
For teens who may need support in seeking help for the first time, you can show them our information on finding support.
You can contact the service and tell them about your concerns, and ask how your teen can access appointments in a different format, such as over the phone or online.
If their mental health support cannot continue, or you cannot contact the service, you can try:
You can look into ordering your teen's repeat prescription online, by app, or over the phone – either through their GP surgery or directly from a registered pharmacist.
If you need to limit their interactions outside, or they need to self-isolate, you could talk to their pharmacist about home deliveries, or arrange to collect it for them.
There have been changes to some of the protections for people sectioned under the Mental Health Act in Wales. Most of these changes are not being used at the moment.
“It is a myth that services have closed down and help is not available during the pandemic. We are very open and keen to reach out to people who need our help.”
-Dr Kate Lovett (Psychiatrist working during coronavirus)
If your council is struggling to provide support for people with Statements of SEN in Wales because of coronavirus, or EHC plans in England because of coronavirus, the government could change how the support is provided.
The change would mean that the council or health body providing the support set out in the plan has to try to get the support for your teen, but your teen doesn't have a right to it.
This is called making 'reasonable endeavours' to provide the support. It might mean that your teen gets less support than normal or a different type of support. In Wales, there's also a possibility that the Government could make the decision to stop providing the support for your teen.
In England, this change is now in force. The change isn't currently in force in Wales.
The Government can also make other temporary changes which could affect your teen's support, including:
temporarily pausing a school's duty to admit your teen, even if the school is named in their EHC plan or Statement of SEN.
These two changes are currently not in force. If they do come into force, they should be for the shortest time possible and reviewed regularly.
If you're not sure whether your teen will be affected by these changes, you could:
A new law, called the Coronavirus Act 2020, had made some changes to the way adult social care is provided. For more information on the changes, you may find it helpful to read our page on coronavirus and social care rights.
Your council's responsibilities to provide young people's social care are generally not affected by the changes. However, if your teen receives social care support, you might find that it is provided in a different way. For example, their social worker might call or video call rather than visit them in person.
In England, changes have been made which may affect young people moving from child to adult social care, including young carers. The council should still try to do the following, although they no longer have a duty to:
If you're not sure whether your teen will be affected by these changes, you could check the Council for Disabled Children's website – they have a list of resources which may help.
This information was last updated on 15 January 2021.