Valentine 's -dayMany of us struggle to live up to the ideals we see on TV, in advertising and on social media.

That's why for many people, whether they are in a relationship or not, days which are supposed to celebrate love and togetherness can only highlight how different, alone, or low we feel.

So we're using today as an opportunity to share with you, information and stories which might help if you're feeling this way, today or any day.

Here you'll find info and stories on:


Feeling lonely isn't in itself a mental health problem, but it's something that a lot of people with mental health problems struggle with.

You can feel alone for many reasons, it's not always about not having anyone around. Loneliness is simply about not feeling connected.

Seeing other people promote their happiness on social media makes things feel even worse.

If you're feeling lonely today, think about why, take steps to build up your social connections (take it slow if you need to) and be careful when comparing yourself to others

Read more tips on loneliness

Low self-esteem

Our self-esteem is how we see ourselves and how much value we see ourselves having.

If you have low self-esteem you may feel like you dislike yourself, like you're worthless or no one likes you.

Days like Valentine's day can be difficult because there are a lot of portrayals of unrealistic and idealised relationships to measure yourself up to, and therefore a lot of ways you can feel you or your relationships are not good enough.

I criticise myself in a way I wouldn't dream of doing to others.

If you are feeling any of these things today, or any day, some things that can help are being kind to yourself, looking after yourself and setting yourself a challenge.

Read our tips on self-esteem


Mental health in relationships

Even if you're in a loving relationship, you can feel left out on Valentine's day.

Although going through difficult times together often makes our relationships stronger, they can also cause arguments, stress and can make us feel like we are not living up to the 'perfect' image we see all around us.

If you feel this way read George, Clare and Kate's blogs about how they manage mental health in their relationships.


George blogs about learning to support his girlfriend with her depression, and how he looks after himself too.

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> Read George's blog


Clare and her husband both have mental health problems. She shares the ways they have learned to cope.

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> Read Clare's blog


Kate blogs about how her relationship was affected when she became her husband's carer.

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> Read Kate's blog

'The dreaded V day'

Valentine's day doesn't have to be about romance.

Read Camilla's blog where she celebrates the friends that have always been there for her.

I feel lucky to have such amazing friends and relatives, it’s reassuring to know that someone’s there.

Read Camilla's blog

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Remember: If you are feeling unsafe, the fastest way to get help is by calling 999 or going to A&E. If that doesn't feel like an option, we have info here on other crisis services.




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