This page is for family and friends who want to support someone with a dissociative disorder.
It can be really hard to see someone you care about experiencing the symptoms of a dissociative disorder. But family and friends can really help. This page has some suggestions for ways you can support them while also looking after your own wellbeing.
Having understanding family and friends helps me.
Try to be patient and understanding in daily life
- Dissociative symptoms may mean they do not always respond to you as you expect.
- Ask them what would help but be aware that they may not always know or be able to tell you.
- If they want to tell you about their experience try to listen with acceptance.
- Touching and intimacy can be difficult for some people. It might help to ask them what is OK and talk about this together.
Think about how to deal with identity alteration
If they experience identity alteration you may find that you have to communicate with different parts of their identity at different times.
Help them to find the right support
- help them find an advocate and support them to meet with different therapists.
- offer extra support and understanding before and after therapy sessions.
- help them to make a crisis plan if they think it would be helpful.
There may be times when you can't offer them the support they need. Think about who is the best person to contact at these times. Have a look at our information on supporting someone to seek help.
Think about how you could help keep them safe
- Your loved one may have triggers that bring on dissociative symptoms and flashbacks. Understanding their triggers means you can help them avoid them, and feel more prepared for dissociative symptoms when they occur.
- If someone you love is hurting themselves or struggling with suicidal thoughts, it can feel really scary. See our pages on supporting someone who is suicidal, and on supporting someone who is self-harming for more information.
- If they experience amnesia, flashbacks or identity alteration they may need more help to stay safe during these times. Talk to them about what you can do to help.
Look after yourself
It's important to make sure you look after yourself too.
This information was published in July 2016. We will revise it in 2019.