Valentine's day

Many of us struggle to live up to the ideals we see on TV, in advertising and on social media.

That's why for many people, whether they are in a relationship or not, days which are supposed to celebrate love and togetherness can only highlight how different, alone, or low we feel.

So we're using Valentines Day as an opportunity to share information and stories which might help if you're feeling this way on this day, or any day.

Here you'll find info and stories on:

Loneliness

Feeling lonely isn't in itself a mental health problem, but it's something that a lot of people with mental health problems struggle with.

You can feel alone for many reasons, it's not always about not having anyone around. Loneliness is simply about not feeling connected.

"Seeing other people promote their happiness on social media makes things feel even worse."

If you're feeling lonely today, think about why, take steps to build up your social connections (take it slow if you need to) and be careful when comparing yourself to others.

Read our tips on managing loneliness

Low self-esteem

Self-esteem is how we value and perceive ourselves. It's based on our opinions and beliefs about ourselves, which can sometimes feel really difficult to change.

If you have low self-esteem you may feel like you dislike yourself, like you're worthless or no one likes you.

Days like Valentine's day can be difficult because there are a lot of portrayals of unrealistic and idealised relationships to measure yourself up to, and therefore a lot of ways you can feel you or your relationships are not good enough.

"I criticise myself in a way I wouldn't dream of doing to others."

If you are feeling any of these things today, or any day, some things that can help are being kind to yourself, looking after yourself and setting yourself a challenge.

Read our tips on self-esteem

Mental health in relationships

Even if you're in a loving relationship, you can feel left out on Valentine's day.

Although going through difficult times together often makes our relationships stronger, they can also cause arguments or stress, and can make us feel like we are not living up to the 'perfect' image we see all around us.

If you feel this way, it might help to read George, Clare and Kate's blogs about how they manage mental health in their relationships.

George

George blogs about learning to support his girlfriend with her depression, and how he looks after himself too.

Read George's story

Clare

Clare and her husband both have mental health problems. She shares the ways they have learned to cope.

Read Clare's story

Kate

Kate blogs about how her relationship was affected when she became her husband's carer.

Read Kate's story

'The dreaded V day'

Valentine's day doesn't have to be about romance.

Read Camilla's blog where she celebrates the friends that have always been there for her.

"I feel lucky to have such amazing friends and relatives, it’s reassuring to know that someone’s there."

Read Camilla's story

We're here for you

There is support out there for you are struggling.

Elefriends is a community full of people who share your experience of mental health problems. They are keen to offer you support and friendship. Visit them here.
Did you know your GP can help you with mental health? Read our guide to seeking help here.
See what your local Mind could offer, or call Infoline for support.
You can talk to someone on the phone right now, by calling the Samaritans on 116 123.

Remember: If you are feeling unsafe, the fastest way to get help is by calling 999 or going to A&E. If that doesn't feel like an option right now, we have information about other crisis services which may help.

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