Information for young people on how to support a friend or partner who is experiencing anger.
It can be difficult to support a friend or partner who is angry. Especially if they sometimes direct their anger towards you.
It’s important to know that they’re responsible for their own actions, including learning how to manage their anger.
But, if you feel able to, there are things you can do to support them:
“I can discuss things with my friends regarding their own triggers and how I can help ensure these don’t get in the way when I am with them.”
If they don’t think they have a problem, or they don’t want to be helped, this can be really hard on you.
You can remind them that you’re there for them, and that you can help them seek support when they’re ready.
Remember: it's not all on you, and it's important that you look after yourself too.
“It’s important to prioritise your mental health too. You can’t pour from an empty glass.”
“Supporting someone can be difficult and you should not, by any means, be expected to put up with abuse or violence just because of someone’s struggles.”
This information was published in March 2021. We will revise it in 2024.
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