If you have lost a loved one, you might be thinking about ways you could commemorate their life. Whether you want to do this on your own, with a small group of family or friends, or with everyone who was touched by your loved one’s life - there are lots of special and meaningful ways you can remember and honour them.
We’ve provided some ideas for things you could do in memory of someone, which we hope will be useful to you during coronavirus and after lockdown has eased. If you’d like to fundraise as part of your event, we’ve included some tips below about how you could do this.
It’s important to know that bereavement affects everyone in different ways, and it's possible to experience any range of emotions. If you're going through a difficult time, you may find our information on bereavement and grief useful. You can also call our Infoline on 0300 123 3393, for information on where to get help.
A funeral can be a way to connect family and friends, and celebrate the life of your loved one. Please be aware of the restrictions on attendance at funerals due to coronavirus. If you’d like to fundraise for Mind at their funeral, we’re always incredibly touched and grateful to receive these donations and you can order collection materials here.
• Plant a tree in their memory.
• Create a Memory Space or other tribute fund in their memory – raising money for a cause close to their heart, and sharing memories at the same time.
• Craft something in their memory, such as a Christmas bauble or a piece of embroidery.
• Create a Memory Book, filled with photos, cards, and cut-outs of things that remind you of them.
• Enter a walk or race for charity in their memory, like Gaurav.
• Name a star in their memory.
• Host a virtual get-together with their loved ones and friends, for example via Skype or Zoom. You could even make it into a quiz about their life.
• Plant a memorial garden – you could decorate and inscribe special dates on some stepping stones, or scatter their ashes.
• Hold a group walk in their memory. Perhaps you could retrace their favourite route together, or walk a route that was on their ‘bucket list’, like Nick did
• Host a tea party or garden party for family and friends. You might want to include collection boxes to raise money for a special cause.
• Create and a memory box or memory capsule together.
• Think about their interests. If they enjoyed art and crafts for example, you could host a Crafternoon at home or via Zoom, in their memory.
• Hold a party or gig for them via Zoom or in person like Jess, perhaps on a significant date.
• Share memories on social media and invite people to join. This can also be a great way to ask people to donate to your Memory Space or tribute fund page.
• If you use TikTok or Instagram, you can share a memory of your loved one and tag friends to do the same. It might just be for fun, or for a charity.
• Enter a walk or race for charity in your loved one’s memory as a team.
• If they enjoyed sport, you could organise a charity football, basketball, cricket or rounders tournament in their name, like Douglas did.
“I have no doubt Josh will be with us every step along the way in November, marvelling at this wonder of the world whilst taking great delight in us 'living life' by seeing something that we had dreamt of doing together. Moreover, as every muscle in our bodies begins to ache as we climb each kilometre, all the pain will be worth it if we can help just one person manage or overcome their mental health problems.”
Nick, who's raised over £38k in memory of his friend Josh.
A Memory Space is an online fundraising page and a wonderful way for you to honour and remember your loved one. Family, friends and colleagues can support a Memory Space by making donations and/or create an event page – bringing everyone’s support together. If you want to add an event to an existing Memory Space then we'd encourage you to ask the page owner for their blessing first.
"I had many moments over the night, but my real moment was at the end. Watching a dance floor full of people, linking arms and singing: 'Hey Jude, don’t be afraid'. It encapsulated everything I had been striving for. 'Take a sad song and make it better'..."
Jess, who fundraised for Mind in memory of her Dad.
Whatever you choose to do, we hope these ideas were helpful. If you would like to raise money for Mind, we’d love to hear more about your loved one, and thank you for helping us ensure everyone with a mental health problem gets support and respect. Email us at [email protected]